How To Attract And Keep The Partner Of Your Dreams
Your approach and strategy are extremely important. As you can imagine, you NEED to be polite, relaxed, calm and a little humorous, in other words, likeable!
How do you BE likeable?
Be yourself, straight, honest, but also become VERY interested in the person you are contacting. The more interested you are in them and less about yourself, the more likeable you will become. People LOVE talking about themselves, so get her talking about herself. She will think you are such a great listener and conversationalist by simply showing interest in her, asking her questions and getting her talking about herself.
WARNING: Do not do this simply to be nice and polite. Be genuine. So if you hate art and she loves art, do not "act" as though you are interested in art simply to get her talking about art with the intention to make her think you have a common interest and therefore connection.
Sooner or later it will show that you are not being genuine and she will run ten times faster than it took for her to accept to interact with you.
So actually read their profiles and ONLY contact those you really do find interesting because similar interests are shared, otherwise they will be gone in a flash.
MYTH: Just because the Internet gives you access to so many more people than you could physically contact in the "real world" (eg. bars), doesn't mean you are in such a "high demand" that you don’t have to respect others or put in much effort, to force them to treat you specially. Nor does it mean that you should contact every single person with the impression, “If I contact everyone, I am bound to get one”. It still boils down to those with similar interests will be interested and those that don’t won’t. So save your time and energy.
You may have already tried one of those two strategies, and by now you are realized it does not work that way. In fact due to the high volume of people on the Internet, you have to be even smarter, more proactive and stay one step ahead of your "competition" to ensure you get the partner you are wanting.
So who should you be contacting?
As a seasoned Online Dating participant, you know as well as I do, there is no such thing as "one perfect lady".
Ever skimmed through a group of profiles and found your heart beating hard towards more than one person's profile? Of course you have.
So there is not just one woman out there waiting to be your "perfect match", there are many, however not all of them will know it or be ready for it. So you will need to prepare to contact a number of women who really gets your heart beating. Just know that some will ignore you, some will be rude, some will show some interest and others will be as keen as you are. Just be prepared for a variety of responses and do not feel that it's personal when you don't get the response you are expecting or wanting.
Remember, you are contacting multiple ladies and all you really care about is one. Life will prove, the right one will reply. Although you are only wanting one lady for a relationship, I recommend contacting more than one for the following reasons:
It will give you "chatting" experience, which in turn will;
Build your confidence
Won't have you feeling as depressed when you get a "rejection", because not all will even reply, let alone reply on a positive note.
If two or more reply, you can get to know both of them more and be able to actually decide which lady you connect with more, rather than having only one lady to "choose" from or having to accept....
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